As I navigate through early adulthood, I have been able to finally admit that my parents arent as stupid as I thought they were 15 years ago. I also am able to look at some of the things they said and did and realize how faulty they were as individuals. I have spent time reflecting on my childhood, almost as if I am reliving it through similar familial experiences with my own children. Early adulthood as a parent can bring back so many feelings regarding our own parents. I am young enough to remember how I felt when my mother announced a "surprise purse check". I was a good kid for the most part. I drank for the first time when I was 18, never did drugs, tried smoking but not really. Talking back was the worst thing I did, and I did it a whole lot.
I have recently become fearfull for my children. My oldest especially. I know how tough things can be and I dont want to have to see her go through the same things. I know I can not save her from all that life has to offer. I consider my life to have been fairly
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Multi-generational Relationship Patterns
Multi-generational relationship patterns of a family within the life course perspective from the parent’s point of view of his or her child. As the parent sees familiar characteristics of the parent within the child during different developmental stages of the parent whether in early adulthood or within the middle adulthood stage of life. The parent relates to his or her parent and has a new found respect for his or her parent as he or she begins the endeavor of parenthood.
As there are many different multi-generational families that portray patterns within all generations that tend to pass from one to the other. For example, a generational pattern of not wearing red of three generations seems to be pondering of how it could be seen as a pattern? The daughter of a mother who was not allowed to wear red by her mother does not categorize itself as adaptive nor maladaptive, but a pattern of other multi-generational families as well. On the other hand, there are many more examples of adaptive and maladaptive patterns within multi-generational families that are seen as patterns and traditions. As the key is whether the pattern is adaptive or maladaptive? Cooking the same meals at Christmas time can be seen as a pattern within a family. It can also be seen as a tradition, an adaptive pattern.
Looking at the whole person by utilizing the bio-psychosocial assessment one can identify patterns within family relationships both of which consists of adaptive and maladaptive. As a social worker he or she must identify the patterns, understand the patterns, and utilize a treatment plan to assist the client or patient to change behavior to replace the maladaptive patterns or by replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts and not just to think but to have life transforming results and change that produces adaptive behavioral patterns within the family and future generations to come.
By working with the client or patient on his or her goals through one on one therapy or family therapy an individual can begin to move toward a process of success by taking it one day at a time, one hour at a time, and sometimes one minute at a time. The patterns whether healthy or not do not happen overnight and it takes time to undo patterns internally and externally. As patterns are cognitively developed through repetition of modeling, and utilizing different respected shared beliefs from other cultures whether to incorporate a change of food to produce an adaptive pattern for new founded results that hopefully will positively contribute to a healthier pattern within the family and within the individual as part of the treatment plan identified from a thorough bio-psychosocial assessment as the social worker has established trust with the client or patient. In order to objectively look at patterns of the family sometimes one must spend time alone to identify the patterns that need change. Realizing that one cannot change others, however, one can change self. All persons of family dynamics contribute to the patterns of the family and of the multi-generational family patterns that consist within our communities and a nation as a whole. We as Americans all have patterns and identifying our adaptive and maladaptive patterns can help in the contribution to society as a whole.
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